Identifying the faults in ourselves
Sometimes the most uncomfortable realization is discovering that the very behavior we criticize in others has quietly started existing within ourselves.
Sometimes I think
The Deeper Problem
Setting wrong examples, because it is prescribed in the religion, that preach what you practice, otherwise this is hypocrisy, and right now our society is loosely based on hypocrisy because we want our offsprings to be diligent, but forget that coming generations are also observant, hence in our society, asking for sanity of one's action which might impact other individual, is something very common in our society.
وہ بھی تو کررہا ہے, Validation Syndrome
Excuses, Validation, and Satisfying your internal Ego just because you want to pressure juniors, killing their natural flare and instincts, just like how to face the challenging circumstances; honestly tell me, is that thing prevalent in our society?
This is the Same Society
Where Boys were taught how to look into challenging situations as opportunity, similarly Girls were taught how to manage in-house logistics, compare that to now; I am not body-shaming, but just observe yourself which one is realistically prevalent in our society. Can our modern parents create an environment where their offspring could face challenging circumstances with dignity?
Personal Observation
Right now, I am observing deficiencies in myself, because while giving interviews, I have observed that what sort of deficiencies I possesses, even in my English and Spanish speaking capabilities (this is not a flex although I am not fluent in Spanish, but at least I could recognize what sort of words are being spoken), but while giving multiple of interviews since February 2026, I have observed one aspect that majority of the candidates do not have ample skills, instead their majority skill considered, Personal References, and (sorry for using Karachi Slang) Weight Lifting, whereas honestly tell me, when we all are crying that AI is taking jobs, I take AI as horse, Horse was always there, but the question is are we Horse Riders?
Why This Matters
Explain the broader implications.
- What future does this behavior create?
- Instant gratification syndrome promoted by our elders
- Why should ordinary people care?
- Because mothers of yester-year were bold enough to send their 17 years old son from South India to Sindh via train all alone, are today's mothers bold enough to create that confidence in both girls and boys?
- What gets damaged if ignored?
- Right now, Pakistani society is on Dilemma, where Social Validation is so much promoted that We are importing Dala, Hilux, etc., but unable to create roads, parking, and aminities related?
- Me being a Bike Rider, solely know that majority of Karachi's bike riders are educated personnel riding inDrive, Yango and Bykea ride sharing apps, means majority of the 60% of the youngsters in Karachi are skill-less.
- Parents today have created so much differences in genders, that ladies and girls today think themselves as doing nothing, instead always looking for excuses for not doing anything, furthermore the body-shaming I have encountered at my family relates that I call My Family "As my Home", and seriously spoiling my wife to think she is above her husband, whereas a female is always safe "Under" the umbrella of Husband, whereas a family member behaved just like that "cunning fox"; that helped that frozen chick stuffed inside cow's urea, and ate him, this is what happening here, everything rounds around my anger.
- What mindset is silently becoming normalized?
- Winning against their offspring gets them a satisfaction, but these are the same individuals who while crying during their last breath that بیٹا مجھے معاف کردینا, is this attitude justifiable?
- At one place you say; father always supports Son, but when Son pays such hefty amount that when Wife doesn't respect his principles, and while husband is without job, and instead wife takes it as opportunity to degrade husband respect and dignity by not allowing him to practice his principles,
- I am getting "angry" only when my lines are crossed, and when I say crossing lines, it also means that my seniors in my family are responsible for this suffocation, and my wife supporting creating this suffocated environment, is this what a father really does to his son?
- My anger is manipulated and my wife taking advantage in killing my integrity just because my father and my mother want to teach me a lesson, because I am someone who follows rulebooks and follow the lane, and instead they want me to follow their lanes, this is the inferiority complex I want to highlight
The Pakistani Contradiction
They are propagating in front of my in laws that he is worried because of his job, but the fact is I am this much strict and compact in principles; hence I didn't cry in front of individuals, instead my father always ridicules me in front of others that in 2007 when my brother died, that I was crying, I still remember that day I had intermediate examination, it was Maghrib Time, and when I entered, my cousin hugged me and asked me for lunch "کہ تم بھوکے ہو گے، صبح کے نکلے ہوئے ہو", I didn't cry at that time, only few sniffs, and went to Regional Dawa'a Academy and spent some time over there to get relaxed because my emotional level was high, but I didn't reacted at that time,
But when the same individual IF starts ridiculing me regarding my anger, if he thinks himself as elder, could he assure is he behaving like an Elder, where he is enticing by the help of my wife to prove me I am angry, but none (both my mom, my father, and my wife) willing not to answer why I am getting irritated to shout?
The Human Angle
Although, no justification for anger, but why making someone irritated this much, I personally feel there is personal vendetta behind, because one thing which irate them before my wife joined them, that he (I) didn't talk to us, this is basic thing they want, because I am still willing to give them a benefit of doubt to them, but they aren't able to understand why doing this when someone is getting irritated on your actions? Don't they think Allah is watching them? Or have they forgot that after laid in grave, منکیر and نکیر won't question this how I was manipulated from three sides?
Final Reflection
This is related to my family doing to me
Sometimes the biggest collapse does not happen economically or politically — it happens when societies slowly stop valuing sincerity, thoughtfulness, and emotional integrity.
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